Order In The House

 

ORDER IN THE HOUSE

“Restoring God’s Design for the Home in a Culture That Has Lost Its Way”

 

There’s a cry rising across our nation — a cry of confusion, disorder, and brokenness. And if we’re honest, it didn’t start in the streets, the schools, or the government. It started in the home.

For years, society shouted that fatherhood was the problem.

“Men are the issue.”

“Fathers are the reason families fall apart.”

“Masculinity is toxic.”

But let’s be real — were fathers truly the problem?  No!

In my opinion, the problem started long before the 1970s.

Long before our neighborhoods changed.

Long before our culture shifted.

 Truth be told, it started in the beginning — when Cain rose up against Abel.

The first family conflict.

The first breakdown of order.

The first warning that when the home loses its structure, the world feels the impact.

1. The Lie About Fatherhood

Many fathers ended up in prison.

Many homes were left without direction.

But the deeper question is: Why? Because the enemy attacked the home.

He attacked men.

He attacked identity.

He attacked purpose.

 Ephesians 6:12 reads; “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities… against spiritual hosts of wickedness…”

This was never a battle of men versus women, or fathers versus families.

This was — and still is — a spiritual war.

Pastors like Tony Evans often say: “If the enemy can remove the man, he can remove the order.”

And that’s exactly what happened.

 2. Stop Feeling Sorry — Start Raising Warriors

We need to stop:

Feeling sorry for the young ones

Treating church like a daycare

Believing teachers are responsible for discipline

Expecting culture to raise our children

And we need to start doing what Scripture commands:

Proverbs 22:6 reads; “Train up a child in the way he should go…”

Training is not babysitting.

Training is not entertaining.

Training is not hoping they figure it out.

Training is intentional, consistent, spiritual formation.

In my opinion — and I’ve lived enough life to say this boldly,

If young men are taught to bring order in the church, they will bring order in the home. 

Because discipline learned in God’s house becomes discipline lived in their own house.

 3. The Presence of God Breaks What We Cannot

We must understand something: We are not the chain‑breakers. God is.

Isaiah 10:27 says; “…the yoke will be destroyed because of the anointing oil.”

It’s the anointing that breaks bondages.

Not our strength, Not our personality, Nore our opinions.

The presence of God must be ever‑present in the home if the home is going to stand.

 4. My Story: A Home of Love, Struggle, and Redemption

I was raised by a great mom and dad.

My mom worked until they had kids.

My father was a good man — but he battled alcoholism.

And that battle shaped our home.

It took my fathers sister to convince him to move us out of the Veramendi Courts in 306 Colima, so our family could have a chance at a different life. And for a season, I lived what felt like a spoiled but humble childhood.

But the vise in my father’s life eventually caught up with him.

And in my latter teen years, I was raised by my mother alone.

At 17 years old, I became a father myself — with no experience, no blueprint, and no idea what I was doing. But truthfully it was not an excuse!

I’ll never forget my father’s last few weeks on earth. He would ask me to lay next to him so he could talk to me.

His final instructions were simple but powerful:

“Don’t become an alcoholic.”

“Work hard.”

“Don’t listen to the noise of people who hate on you.”

“Treat your wife like a queen — you’ll thank me later.”

My sister got married after a couple of weeks on a Saturday, and the next morning, I took my dad to the hospital. He died that Friday.

Those words he spoke to me became seeds — seeds that didn’t grow until much later.

5. The Legacy of Hard Work

My grandfather, born in Mexico and later a U.S. citizen, used to tell me:

“Put your hands to work and shut your mouth.”

He also changed the trajectory of his family through discipline, work ethic, and faith.

And I saw the same opportunity in my own life, even when I didn’t take it at first.

Because life is filled with choices.

And if God is not in the choice, we will fail. 

I can say that I lived that truth and paid for that truth, but eventually, I surrendered to that truth.

 6. The Power of a Praying Family

My grandmother prayed, my mother prayed, and their prayers kept me alive long enough for God to get a hold of me.

I wasn’t the best husband.

I wasn’t the best father.

But when God shook me — I listened.

And today, I can testify:

I don’t drink

I don’t smoke

I am a minister of Christ

And I have survived:

Diabetes attacks, Heart issues, Fatty liver, Stage 3 kidney failure, Bladder cancer, and a BKA amputation. And after all that God is still using me.

The Lord gave me these verses as anchors:

Job 27:3–4 reads; “As long as my breath is in me… My lips will not speak wickedness…”

And Job 33:3 which reads; “My words come from my upright heart; my lips utter pure knowledge.”

These Scriptures became my declaration: “As long as I have breath, I will speak truth.”

 7. Order Begins With God — And Flows Into the Home

When God restores a man,

He restores a marriage.

When He restores a marriage,

He restores a family.

When He restores a family,

He restores a community.

Order in the house is not about control, It’s about alignment.

It’s about purpose and about spiritual authority.

It’s truly about God’s design.

Because when there is order in the house,

there will be peace in the home,

strength in the family,

and stability in the community.

I want to end saying that it has been a long road traveled with quite a bit of turns and dead ends. But I can honestly say that regardless of what it may look like at this time, al roads lead to Christ, In Jesus Name!